Recommended Resources for Parents: General ParentingBy
Over the next three Sundays, I will be preaching a series on gospel parenting. I am not an expert on parenting, to be sure. In fact, the reason for a series on parenting is because I know the deficiencies in my own life as a father, and I am called to shepherd High Pointe in all areas of life by applying the gospel in specific ways.
As I am preparing for this series, I have been compiling a list of helpful resources for parents. I will be sharing that list in parts over the next few days. To begin with, allow me to recommend some general parenting materials.
God, Marriage, and Family: Rebuilding the Biblical Foundation by Andreas J. Köstenberger
*Dr. Köstenberger, New Testament professor at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary, provides a thorough handbook on all things related to marriage and family. In this book, Dr. Köstenberger argues from the biblical texts what God says about such things as marriage, family, reproductive technologies, singleness, homosexuality, divorce and remarriage. Every family should have a copy of this book as a biblical reference manual.
Gospel-Powered Parenting: How the Gospel Shapes and Transforms Parenting by William P. Farley
*Gospel-Powered Parenting is a book about how the gospel applies to parenting without assuming what the gospel is. This book is not a book about parenting methodology; it is a book meant to change our thinking (our wrong assumptions) about God, ourselves and our children. In other words, it is a book that lays the biblical and theological foundations for gospel parenting. Farley does an excellent job of explaining the gospel and applying the implications of the gospel to our lives as husbands, wives and parents.
Shepherding a Child’s Heart by Tedd Tripp
*Shepherding a Child’s Heart is a classic in gospel parenting. I recently re-read it, and I realized that I had forgotten just how good and helpful it is. Because the Bible argues that the heart is the well-spring of life, Tripp helps parents learn how to shepherd a child’s heart. He helpfully exposes the unbiblical goals (well-behaved, well-educated, well-mannered kids) and unbiblical methods (emotionalism, threats, yelling, withholding affection, license) parents are likely to use when not focused on the issues of the heart. If you only read one book on gospel parenting, pick this one up.
Instructing a Child’s Heart by Tedd and Margy Tripp
*In this book, Tedd and Margy Tripp focus on formative instruction, though they do not exclude corrective discipline, for the purpose of equipping our children with a Christian worldview – a view that “delights in God and the goodness of His ways.”
Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide to Parenting Teens by Paul Tripp
*In Age of Opportunity, Paul Tripp debunks contemporary culture’s view of teenagers and helps expose whether or not we Christians have bought into culture’s views. He addresses the frustrations and fears that come with raising teenagers but helps us understand that the family is the place God has chosen as the primary place of instruction for our children. Consequently, he helps us establish biblical goals for parenting teens (part 2) and helpful strategies (part 3).
All God’s Children and Blue Suede Shoes by Ken Meyer
*Many of us have grown up in pop culture and have assumed many of its unhelpful views. Ken Meyer defines culture and shows us how pop culture, with all its damaging affects, has swallowed up high culture and pop culture. This may not sound like an appealing book at first, but it will help you understand the effects of culture on us and our families.